Movies: Lars and the Real Girl
Lars and The Real Girl by Nancy Oliver and Craig Gillespie (2007, MGM). Is it ironic that a film that, at its root, is about loneliness, I'd rather have watched it alone? In the midst of a half full theater, instead of being as engrossed into the striking story as I should have been, I found myself questioning the whats and whys of other people's laughter. I should have been thinking about why a small town went willingly with another man's delusion. I should have been challenging myself to consider "Bianca" under these different circumstances. And, to some extent I did but I still wanted to ask people, "Why is this scene funny?"
Was it the absurdity? Because, of course, a Real Doll is absurd. It's offensive and gross. That said, Ryan Gosling's Lars is far from absurd. He's a sweet, gentle soul who takes in the world from a very safe distance. So, theater patrons, is it his curious mental illness that is laughable? I might be able to accept that. I, however, only occasionally got the joke. Most of the time, I was just sad for Lars and his hurt and proud of the simple acts of kindness and honesty that this entire town shows him at the right moments to provide some level of therapy and healing.
But still, that fucking doll. I know we imbue objects with our own feelings and hangups and I'm trying to accept that this creepy sex toy could be anything to anybody in the right context -- something the movie showcases time and again -- but still. There are dudes paying thousands of dollars to hump an inanimate woman (with a backstory like she came from the Cabbage Patch) who won't reject them. Or talk. Or think. Or be.
You'll forgive me if I struggle with accepting her as Lars and his community does.
And yet, even though I squirmed in my seat with my brow furrowed, it is a wonderful film. The acting is spot on. We get to know these people in both their little and big moments. And, I cared.
Real Doll notwithstanding...recommended.
Was it the absurdity? Because, of course, a Real Doll is absurd. It's offensive and gross. That said, Ryan Gosling's Lars is far from absurd. He's a sweet, gentle soul who takes in the world from a very safe distance. So, theater patrons, is it his curious mental illness that is laughable? I might be able to accept that. I, however, only occasionally got the joke. Most of the time, I was just sad for Lars and his hurt and proud of the simple acts of kindness and honesty that this entire town shows him at the right moments to provide some level of therapy and healing.
But still, that fucking doll. I know we imbue objects with our own feelings and hangups and I'm trying to accept that this creepy sex toy could be anything to anybody in the right context -- something the movie showcases time and again -- but still. There are dudes paying thousands of dollars to hump an inanimate woman (with a backstory like she came from the Cabbage Patch) who won't reject them. Or talk. Or think. Or be.
You'll forgive me if I struggle with accepting her as Lars and his community does.
And yet, even though I squirmed in my seat with my brow furrowed, it is a wonderful film. The acting is spot on. We get to know these people in both their little and big moments. And, I cared.
Real Doll notwithstanding...recommended.
Comments
Don't know that I'd be laughing and overhearing laughter might have exaggerated the sense of disconnectedness I something feel with gen pop.
I definitely will check this out. Thanks for posting this.
i think what kept me from feeling any type of sadness from seeing this film was hearing the most amazing review of it by NPR's Joe Morgenstern while driving home from work one evening... his reviews I trust and take seriously. And he prepared me by filtering the communal aspect of love and determination of a family and entire community to care for one of its members. Though it was interesting to see how that was manifested onscreen, I still felt a closer connection to the community surrounding Lars and not just Lars. He was just a regular guy, though marked by mental illness.. everything he felt and wanted was real... and I loved how everyone around him - though coalesced in their sadness, found the strength to respond by working together to make him better. or at least feel better... in turn I think it changed them too.
Fake doll and all... a hearty two thumbs up.