speakeasy: one is the happiest number
I’m fifty-four years old and I have always been single. I love my single life. But for a long time I rarely said that out loud. I thought I was the only happy single person.
- Single and Happy by Bella DePaulo, American Sexuality Magazine
So, it's not weird that I'm not actively and aggressively seeking out a relationship and that I haven't been for a long time? I like smart ladies and sex is good times but, you know what, I really really like being on some independent ish.
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Thanks for this.
I need to squirrel this away somewhere for my daughter. We're trying to raise her under the rubric that marriage is one of many options in life. Not a necessity or "destiny".
Got anything on on "only children?" I used to fret about her not having siblings until I noticed how many people around me were often estranged from family. I was "an only" and look how I turned out?... No wait...
I don't want to inflict myself on anyone in this state, so I'm refusing to date. But I am waiting for the day when bitter becomes something like ambivalence, or independence or something.
You can be on some independant ish while being in a relationship and yes sex, when done right, is really good times.
BB