Speakeasy: Sexy Back
"Asian men are still stereotyped as geeky, sexless losers, including by some Asian American women," says Lee. "I remember that even in my Asian American Studies classes, there were two or three Asian women who bragged how they only date white men. I distinctly remember one of them saying, 'I'm afraid an Asian man might beat me,' and another saying, 'Well, I've always been attracted to the Abercrombie and Fitch model type.'"
But, I ask him, is that really representative? Even if there are attitudes like that out there, it's hard to think that those are really the norm today. Certainly things have changed in the past 20 years, with society moving -- slowly -- toward a more progressive, inclusive standard of beauty, right?
Lee doesn't think so. "Go to any newsstand, and just stand back and look at the magazine rack," he says. "Over 90 percent of the people looking back are going to be white. If you exclude Beyonce, Oprah and a bunch of athletes, you're talking more like 99 percent. That's what Asian Americans internalize when they think about who's sexy, about who they want to get with. They think: 'White people are sexy, and we want to get it on with a guy like George Clooney.'"
-Do You Think We're Sexy?, SF Gate, 11.24.06
That's right. Stop fetishizing the A&F Model types and start fetishizing the Black man.
We need more Cablinasians.
Tiger Woods, y'all!
Comments
You know I have to comment on this. Can't a person just have a preference and not have it reflect on race? Like some men prefer blondes? Hmm, I don't really know.
There's a guy at work who's Viet, which is so cool for me because I don't really have Viet or even Asian friends. He told me that his Viet lady friends think Viet guys are either arrogant or will beat them. I've only dated one Viet and he was arrogant, but in general a nice guy. My friend at work, William is a great guy, definitely not a loser, has a cute Viet girlfriend.
I was once told by Octavio that the reason why Asian-American women date white guys is because they're ashamed to be Asian. They also don't date other races because they're ashamed of what their families might think ("she's dating a Mexican, black guy, etc?!"). He may have said this because he was trying to guilt me into going out with him, but there must be some truth to it on some level. It could also be that we, I, have a preference. And my preference is...not Octavio.
If these Asian-American women want Asian hotties take a look at Rain, or Se7en. Rain has quite the following in the States now. I say, if you think he's cute go out with him. Just one date. You can get a new friend out of it, or a lover, or even just a free meal.
mr. haggis ain't got a clue. hehe.
Holla at ya fern!
You know, it's hard out there for a plant.